This all still does not explain to me why overstraining was that fatal for the turbine.
Think simpler - what does a turbine do? It converts a total pressure drop in the flow of water into energy.
Now, go one step further, what does it mean? If a turbine would be perfectly idle, it would not take energy away from the water. It is rotating at exactly the speed needed for keeping the water flow at it's total pressure. It would produce zero torque and there would be only small friction at the turbine surfaces.
The generator is the next element: The more electrical energy you demand, the more torque is required for turning the generator - the speed of the generator+turbine drops. That is why you notice increased power demands in power networks by the frequency of the AC current dropping.
Now, if you slow the turbine down faster than usual, by the generator requiring more torque, the turbine lags more behind the idle state, and more torque is produced by the turbine until the lag reaches a new equilibrium - the torque of turbine increases as long as energy in the water is available and at the same time, the pressure at the turbine blades increases. The more torque you demand from the turbine, the more you strain it by having higher pressures acting at the turbine instead of just flowing through the turbine unused. The increased lag (equivalent to the angle of attack on a wing) also increases the amount of cavitation at the turbine parts, eroding it quickly.
At the same time, the rotation forces inside the turbine increase as well, since a turbine is not free of mass and inertia.
Short: The more you demand from a turbine, the more likely is it that it breaks.